Comments on: A Letter to the Child I Never Knew https://www.imperfecthomemaker.com/2014/12/to-the-child-i-never-knew.html Biblical Encouragement for the Christian Homemaker Thu, 30 Mar 2023 21:55:33 +0000 hourly 1 https://wordpress.org/?v=6.4.4 By: Brittney https://www.imperfecthomemaker.com/2014/12/to-the-child-i-never-knew.html#comment-21188 Sun, 20 Mar 2016 05:03:09 +0000 https://www.imperfecthomemaker.com/?p=4334#comment-21188 This touched my heart and made me cry my eyes out. Reading this was like reading my own experience. My last and most recent miscarriage i had no idea i was pregnant. All the emotions you described were exactly what i felt. It is still a pretty big secret in my life. I’ve told a couple people but not very many. I will defiantly be sharing this story.

]]> By: MaryEllen Bream https://www.imperfecthomemaker.com/2014/12/to-the-child-i-never-knew.html#comment-20532 Thu, 18 Feb 2016 01:32:45 +0000 https://www.imperfecthomemaker.com/?p=4334#comment-20532 In reply to nettie.

Everyone’s circumstances are a little different, but every baby is just as precious and just as missed by its mama. Thanks so much for your comment. <3

]]> By: nettie https://www.imperfecthomemaker.com/2014/12/to-the-child-i-never-knew.html#comment-20531 Thu, 18 Feb 2016 00:30:41 +0000 https://www.imperfecthomemaker.com/?p=4334#comment-20531 I lost our 3rd baby at exactly 11 weeks, but it had only grown to about 7 weeks (estimated by the size and stage of development of the baby that I miscarried). Unlike you, I had known I was pregnant ever since before my missed period, and this was a very planned baby (not that that matters, but just to say that I had 11 weeks of love built up for this baby when I lost it). I chose to miscarry at home (we’d been told the week before that there was no heartbeat anymore, and I’d started spotting) and when it happened, it went much like your miscarriage did with the intense cramping and pressure and a pop followed by the release of placental tissue and baby. I did take him and hold him (we felt it was a him) and look at him, and it was very healing to me. After we said goodbye, we put him in our freezer because we knew we would be buying and moving to a new home soon (it turned out it was two years later, but thankfully the freezer kept him preserved. I promise this wasn’t as bizarre or gross as it sounds…it felt very right to us). But as soon as our house was built, before we even moved in, we went over to the new yard and buried him, along with our 4th baby’s placenta (I had another baby during those two years), under a wisteria bush in the front garden bed. My sister-in-law even crocheted a little baby bootie in which to place and bury him. I loved that she did that and didn’t think it was silly…and I love giving him a burial spot with his younger brother’s placenta. It helped a lot in the healing and closure of that loss.
I’m sorry for your loss, MaryEllen. I’m so glad you’ve grieved now and gotten some closure on the loss of that baby. I think our losses might’ve been in the same year: mine was on Nov. 6, 2006. I’m also sorry for everyone else’s losses mentioned here in these comments.

]]> By: MaryEllen Bream https://www.imperfecthomemaker.com/2014/12/to-the-child-i-never-knew.html#comment-20126 Thu, 28 Jan 2016 17:53:53 +0000 https://www.imperfecthomemaker.com/?p=4334#comment-20126 In reply to Brandi.

I’m finding more and more people who are saying they flushed their baby’s body. It’s sad but good to know we are not alone.

]]> By: Brandi https://www.imperfecthomemaker.com/2014/12/to-the-child-i-never-knew.html#comment-20124 Thu, 28 Jan 2016 17:40:14 +0000 https://www.imperfecthomemaker.com/?p=4334#comment-20124 In reply to MaryEllen Bream.

It is very comforting to know that I am not the only one who shares in the grief of losing a child but also in flushing my sweet baby. I was 7 weeks pregnant, had known for a week. was excited, and then the bleeding began and out came my baby. I have suffered terribly over flushing my baby for years but I did not know what to do at the time. Thank you for being so brave to write this post. It appears that many of us have greatly benefited from it. And I too am very sorry for your loss.

]]> By: MaryEllen Bream https://www.imperfecthomemaker.com/2014/12/to-the-child-i-never-knew.html#comment-20038 Mon, 25 Jan 2016 20:10:21 +0000 https://www.imperfecthomemaker.com/?p=4334#comment-20038 In reply to Jennifer.

I’m so sorry for your loss, Jen.

]]> By: Jennifer https://www.imperfecthomemaker.com/2014/12/to-the-child-i-never-knew.html#comment-20037 Mon, 25 Jan 2016 20:04:05 +0000 https://www.imperfecthomemaker.com/?p=4334#comment-20037 I want to say a big thank you for sharing your story! I am crying today, not only because my heart breaks for you but also because We just lost our baby 12/15/15. Since then some have came to me and said they have had a miscarriage also. It confuses me, as to why I would just now be hearing it from them. I feel the need to include my baby tiny when I talk about my other children(most of the time). I am glad you were brave enough to talk about your baby. Every baby deserves acknowledgment. I am proud of you! You are a mother and someday you will see your angel! It does changes us. ~Jen

]]> By: MaryEllen Bream https://www.imperfecthomemaker.com/2014/12/to-the-child-i-never-knew.html#comment-20011 Sun, 24 Jan 2016 22:22:36 +0000 https://www.imperfecthomemaker.com/?p=4334#comment-20011 In reply to jessica.

It’s comforting to know there are others who have had this experience isn’t it?

]]> By: jessica https://www.imperfecthomemaker.com/2014/12/to-the-child-i-never-knew.html#comment-20000 Sun, 24 Jan 2016 13:27:32 +0000 https://www.imperfecthomemaker.com/?p=4334#comment-20000 I miscarried a baby at 8 weeks and I also flushed our baby down the toilet and it breaks my heart knowing I did that. In the moment I didn't know what else to do. I regret it all the time. We need to be more gentle with ourselves and remember that in the moment we were in shock, numb and just didn't know what else to do. Sending you lots of love and comfort! Thank you again for sharing!]]> Thank you so much for writing this post and sharing your story! I am so sorry for you and your husbands loss ❤ I miscarried a baby at 8 weeks and I also flushed our baby down the toilet and it breaks my heart knowing I did that. In the moment I didn’t know what else to do. I regret it all the time. We need to be more gentle with ourselves and remember that in the moment we were in shock, numb and just didn’t know what else to do. Sending you lots of love and comfort! Thank you again for sharing!

]]> By: MaryEllen Bream https://www.imperfecthomemaker.com/2014/12/to-the-child-i-never-knew.html#comment-19661 Mon, 11 Jan 2016 20:57:15 +0000 https://www.imperfecthomemaker.com/?p=4334#comment-19661 In reply to Racheal.

Thanks for sharing!

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